I fell victim to a family memeber’s moment of cattiness this past week while on vacation and I must admit that I didn’t respond in a productive manner. I did, and still do, feel vindicated in my rather abrupt response to what I viewed as a personal attack. Maybe I was out of line; here is how it went down:
I ordered an entrée for dinner that I was sharing with my son and we ate it all. About 2 hours later I was helping gather snacks for our family excursion the next day, I was filling snack bags with snack mix when 2 pieces of cereal fell onto the counter. Without thinking I popped them into my mouth, my chewing was interrupted by the raised voice of a senior family member. She exclaimed, “You’re eating AGAIN!?!?”
Almost immediately my blood started boiling and I had to refrain from trying to inhale the entire bag of cheerios while she watched in horror. I responded in a raised voice with, “Yes I am, is there a problem? Last time I checked I am an adult and can eat whenever and whatever I like.”
Now mind you, I am not a skinny girl. The message she was trying to deliver, whatever it’s intent, probably would have been taken as an attack regardless of how it was delivered. So with elevated voices and multi-generational family vacation variables added it was bound to become a pressurized situation. I felt proud that I kept my sailor tongue in check and somehow prevented myself from flying across the table at her. I just wanted to yell, “I didn’t say anything when you ate 2 sandwiches (1 of which was mine) and a Slimfast bar today” or “you ate an entire entrée by yourself tonight” but I remained calm.
The next morning she apologized stating that she had forgotten that I had split my meal the night before but I couldn’t help but feel that regardless of the situation it was probably a thought she should have kept to herself.
Do you feel that comments made about a person’s eating habits are catty or helpful?