Friend or frenemy? Seems like it would be easy to tell the difference between someone who loves you and someone who is waiting for you to fall on your face – or worse holding their leg out to help you fall on your face. But I think at some point we have all been fooled.
I have been lucky in my life to have met my perfectly imperfect group of true friends relatively early in life. I am even luckier that they have stuck around for the last (almost) 15 years. I think my experience with these real friendships makes it harder for me to be fooled by the likes of the frenemy. So I have composed some helpful tips (in the style of Jeff Foxworthy) on how to spot a frenemy in the wild.
If she ditches you at a bar for a hookup or if she encourages you to leave with a sketchy dude who drives a van…she is a frenemy.
If she allows you to leave the house under any of the following conditions: an orange bottle tan, a pink sweat suit, dandruff, leggings as pants…she is a frenemy.
If she posts and tags you in up-angle or otherwise embarrassing photos on Facebook…she is a frenemy.
If she only wants to hang out when she has nothing better to do…she is a frenemy.
If she flirts with your significant other, spouse, father, mother etc. …she is a frenemy.
If she tells your crush any story about you involving the words “stomach virus”…she is a frenemy.
If she knows you are terrified of being on stage and she secretly signs you up for karaoke…she is a frenemy.
If she uses that insecurity about being on stage as a way to shame you into feeling like you are ruining her night…she is a frenemy.
If you confront her about her bad behavior and she takes no responsibility for that behavior and instead blames it on you…she is most definitely a frenemy.
So be on the lookout ladies because frenemies pop up just about everywhere. What are your experiences with frenemies? Let us hear from you!
AIBC Team Member