Get out of debt.
Exercise every day.
Take a real vacation / travel.
Keep in touch with distant family and friends.
Spend more time with your kids and less time at work.
Sound familiar? These are examples of common New Year Resolutions. Some of them are resolutions that I have actually made in years past. A few have been resolutions for several years in a row. I always have grand intentions, but like others I know, I don’t always have the time to follow through and keep my resolutions going.
I am proud to say there have been years where I made great strides towards change, and I felt like everything was moving in the right direction. Those years it felt great to have goals and be able to achieve them. In the span of a year, I lost 70 pounds, walked my first half marathon, and got a promotion. But the following year I gained 30 pounds, took a 15% pay cut, and started feeling winded walking from my car into work. There ended up being underlying health issues which led to unexpected medical bills. The reality is, despite the best laid plans, some years we are just lucky to get by and see another New Year’s Day.
Speaking of NYD, I spent the majority of the day reflecting on resolutions of the past, the good years and the bad years, what has and hasn’t worked for me, and I came to the realization that most resolutions fail for one reason: it’s too much at one time. Change is good. We hear that all the time, and it is true. But too much change at one time can make a person lose it! Lose their mind, lose themselves, lose the desire to enact change period.
So I decided NOT to make any resolutions this year.
This year, I have decided to take an alternate approach.
I am going to EVOLVE.
Slow and steady wins the race, they say. It makes sense that success would come when you take your time, make tiny changes here and there, and keep forgiving yourself when you mess up. A person is more likely to keep trying if the effort itself doesn’t make them feel like a failure. Take it easy on yourself. Have broad over-arching goals, and give yourself flexibility with your deadlines. Evolution is a very slow process, but the changes lead to survival.
I walk in stride with people
much taller than me
and partly it’s the boots but
mostly it’s my chi
and I’m becoming transfixed
with nature and my part in it
which I believe just signifies
I’m finally waking up
“Evolve” — Ani Difranco
Did you make resolutions?
What is your plan for success this year?
I would love to hear your story!
Happy New Year,
Living well is not about being calm; it is about being present. – Judith Hanson Lasater