Have you ever noticed there’s always that friend that fancies himself/herself a comedian? People can be so eager to be today’s funny man/woman that he or she may do it at the expense of being insensitive to others’ real and raw emotions. I used to be that friend. I have always reveled in the inappropriate and love the shock factor, but have since learned knowing your audience and use of appropriate timing is of utmost importance. I’m not talking about comedic timing, either. I have actually isolated friends by being insensitive at the worst of times for them and I have serious regrets. Fortunately, I learned those hard lessons before social media came into existence. You see, Facebook, Twitter, and other social media sites can really suck. Especially when your want-to-be comedian friends seem to make perfect strangers hate them by expressing their would-be humor all over YOUR wall. As a friend to all parties involved, this can put you in a very uncomfortable position.
Here are a few tips to help you keep your friendships.
The first step is realizing not everything should be funny. Sure, this is your way of coping with awkward or uncomfortable situations, but sometimes your humor doesn’t remotely translate and will backfire terribly. And sometimes there are moments when humor should be excluded altogether.
Don’t be desperate for attention; it’s not about you. Yes, your intentions may be to cheer a friend up and make them laugh, but sometimes when people reach out they are in need of compassion. Making a joke or providing humor can undermine a serious message. And quite possibly, you may come across as an attention hound.
Additionally, remember that you may know your friend very well, but you don’t know your friend’s friends. What your friend may take lightly because they know and accept your sense of humor may be highly upsetting to their friends. You never know what battles or demons people are fighting and to make an off color joke about depression, divorce, etc. is just in poor taste.
Finally, if you post something and everyone completely ignores you – or worse, crickets ensue because you’ve completely killed the thread then it might be okay to just go ahead and delete your comment and let the thread owner know.
We all feel a touch more bold about what we share on our friends’ pages because we don’t know their friends personally. To avoid offending people I have always chosen my words carefully on Facebook. Sometimes people drop profanity or worse things on my Facebook statuses because they are sheltered from ever knowing the people they’ve offended, but I am the one stuck dealing with that backlash or upset from an aunt or former teacher. We add people on Facebook because we actually like them as friends, but that shouldn’t mean we have to justify peoples’ behaviors to prove they are decent human beings to the friends they insult. Think before you post and don’t put your friends in that position to explain you aren’t really as callous as you came across.
It’s really a simple concept, actually. If you wouldn’t proclaim it on a street corner then don’t proclaim it on your friends’ statuses. Save those funnies for intimate one-on-one conversations. This way you can really enjoy the look of amusement/shock/whatever on your (real life and not just Facebook) friend’s face.
No trolling here,
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